This whole thing has felt like a major cross roads in life. I've learnt so many things through all of this. But the one I want to highlight now is that feelings change. People change. And most important plans change. I was talking about this with Tara yesterday and she sent me a really good message. I told her I was going to quote her and put it up here. Because it made me feel all sorts of calm and realise a fair few things.
"Don't put too much pressure on yourself to be in a certain spot! I like the quote that if you get through everyday or you can make tiny improvements or things to make yourself happy it's not a wasted life. just cause you aren't in the same space as others doesn't mean you're a failure either. You honestly don't have to have the same dream as everyone else and even if what you want out of life is different to what you used to want it doesn't mean you failed younger you. It just means you've changed you've grown up and there's things that you care about more than some thing you thought you used to want."
(I stole this photo from Luke. He is on holiday in England right now)
Points I want to cover:
- Its ok to take a different path to the path that everyone around you seems to be taking. This is one that I have struggled with for a long time. Since finishing uni I've floundered around like a magikarp. And most of my peers in my major find themselves overseas right now. While i want to travel, moving overseas isn't part of my plan. And I used to beat myself up a lot about my life because I thought moving overseas should be a part of it. But its not an ambition i have. Not anymore. So I want you to know that it is ok to take a different path to the one everyone else seems to take.
- If you manage to take one step forward or do one thing to make you happy its not a wasted day. Again another thing I used to struggle with was that I was wasting my life. But you know what, I'm not. When you're young you should feel as free as a bird to explore, do what you like and live how you like. Mum sat me down last night and told me I needed to stop pressuring myself. And you don't know how liberating it is until you do it. Any small step you take toward your goal, or just being happy is the best use of your time. Its not a waste!
- Its ok for your plans to change. If you don't want the same thing you did for the past 10 years its ok. You're not a failure. You're not failing yourself. You've just changed. This one is such a biggie I've struggled with. I've wanted to be this one thing since I was about 10. And more recently it hasn't happened. and its not working for me. And I needed to (it still scares me a bit) admit that I didn't want that anymore. You aren't failing anyone. You're doing what truly ignites your heart.
- You don't always need a solid plan. Explore. Just stop pressuring yourself and free your mind up.
- Owning your plan (or new plan) no matter how different it is makes you feel insanely powerful and in charge of your life. So I would highly recommend it. Your life is YOURS. So take charge and go down the path you choose.
Its a weird interesting thing to be at a cross roads in life. Making decisions on which way you want your (life) river to flow. You just have to sit down and really listen to your heart, your gut, your brain, your instincts. Sit down and ask yourself the hard questions. Because life can't give you what you want if you don't know it yourself.
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